Sunday, September 27, 2026

Sunday, September 27, 2026

 I've been packing and cleaning out cupboards and closets and now have the kitchen done except for a few things I will need and a few things to eat. Today, I got the stove and refrigerator cleaned. I also sold my dresser to a lady in my building and will replace it with something that better matches my other furniture once I get settled.

I spent the afternoon with Ben and the family again. He made bbq ribs, Jill made potato salad, I made baked beans, Camille made chocolate cupcakes, and Lois made a pumpkin dessert.  I gave Norah and Camille their 13th birthday gifts a little bit early - hug rings (a large hand and a small hand that meet) and are engraved "Always With You". They really liked them and said they will treasure them. Charlotte is wearing the sweater that I made for her.

Charlotte participated in the Homecoming events at her school this week and went to the dance last night.  What a beauty she is and has the personality to go along with it.





It was sure hard to say goodbye - we shared lots of hugs and they all gathered in the driveway and threw kisses and waved as I drove off.  I was bawling until I figured I'd better get focused on getting myself home safely.



Wednesday, September 23, 2026

Wednesday, September 23, 2026

 Moving day is getting closer and closer and I am feeling the pressure and anxiety that comes along with it.  I am checking things off the list and my apartment is filling with boxes.

I spent Sunday afternoon with Ben and the family.  I gave Charlotte her sweater but then forgot to take any photos. She wore it until the time came for her to model her Homecoming dress and I didn't get a photo of that either.  I'm sure Ben will share photos when the day comes.

We played a silly card game called "Exploding Kittens" and it took a while to figure it out, but once we got it, it was fun.  We didn't play to the end because Ben had dinner ready. We sat down to a delicious meal of Bun Cha (grilled pork meatballs served on a bed of rice noodles and complimented with lettuce leaves, mint, and basil and topped off with a yummy sauce and a spicy sauce too). I went way out of the way and stopped at Kowalski's for GF Rice Krispie bars for dessert.  It was a fun day.

Chelsey did my apartment inspection and I passed with flying colors, so no worries there as far as getting my deposit back.

I heard from Peg at the company that manages Greenspire, my new home, and we went through her questionnaire and she gave me a list of documentation that would be needed to calculate my rent and determine my deposit amount.  

Our Stampin Up group had our annual summer luncheon and everyone brought salads. I got several nice going away cards from them and also a gift card for Hobby Lobby. Even though I only see them once a month, they have become such good friends and we always have interesting conversations and do fun, creative things with paper.

I spent a good part of yesterday gathering up proof of my income, bank account balances, medical, dental, and Joey expenses - all will be considered in the calculations to determine how much my rent will be. Needless to say, this caused some stress and I was unable to go to sleep last night. After laying there for over an hour, I just got up and got to work to get the info to Peg. I learned that I can scan a document and share it as a pdf file through my email account. That was a huge time saver (as long as it worked ok), rather than having to go somewhere to have a 30-page document faxed.  

I finally got back to bed around midnight and slept until 5:30 this morning and tossed and turned for a couple of hours before finally dragging my butt out of bed.

When I came in from my morning walk, I checked the mail and there was a card from my friend, Leslie. Her sentiment was so sweet and enclosed was a gift card for $250. Dang - I have nice friends and Leslie and I go back to the early 80s, as our husbands were great friends.

My neighbor, Ted invited me over for a glass of wine last night and to wish me well.  He also might be going through some relocation changes in the near future. 

A going-away gathering is planned for this afternoon. It was a very nice turnout with lots of desserts, hugs, and good wishes.








Saturday, September 19, 2026

Saturday, September 19, 2026

 There was a meet and greet on Thursday with our new manager, Branden and the guy appears to have a lot on the ball. He is experienced, a good communicator, and has an interest in making things right here at Penelope.  I won't be here to see it, but I'm happy for the residents to finally have a manager on site who seems to care (5 managers in 5 years). 

Art class was also scheduled for Thursday but Genevieve had to cancel due to an unexpected trip out of town.  I feel bad that I will be unable to say goodbye in person.

I finally got a good night of sleep and woke up feeling rested yesterday. That led to a pretty productive day. 

For a long time now, I have considered getting rid of my giant microwave oven and replacing it with something smaller. I gave it to my neighbor and then went shopping at Best Buy Outlet (they had junk) and Walmart for a new one.  I also dropped off a bunch of items to donate to the PROP thrift store.  

I packed up the small appliances in my kitchen that won't be used between now and moving day.  If I get 1-2 boxes packed each day, it seems like I will be ready. 

We finally got much needed rain - all day on Friday and Joey and I didn't have very long walks throughout the day.  The grass is getting greener - just in time for the leaves to start to fall soon and cover it up again. 

I invited Deb up for a beer and we had a nice chat. Cathy stopped by later in the eventing and brought me a gift - a pretty, soft blanket for my sofa. So sweet of her! 

I finally finished the crochet part of Charlotte's sweater - I now have to block it and then pass it on.  It was a fun project with quite a bit of detail and some techniques that I had to learn by watching You Tube videos.

Thursday, September 17, 2026

Wednesday, September 16, 2026

 I had my 4th Truxima infusion today at the Burnsville Health Partners Specialty Center.  My nurse was Jessica and she tried two locations on my right arm but couldn't get the IV set up correctly, so she called in Emily for assistance and it took a bit of a warm compress and some massage to get it set up but the medication finally started flowing through at about 9:30. Since I hadn't gotten much sleep the night before, I thought I would be able to rest but I couldn't get comfortable. I did rest, but didn't sleep.  I was finally finished at 1:00.

As I was heading out of the clinic, I passed the TRIA Orthopedic Urgent Care Clinic and stopped to see how long it would take to have my sore wrist checked out.  I was told there was only one person ahead of me, so I got in right away. They took X-rays and I spoke with a doctor who showed me the results and I learned that the joints are full of Arthritis. Imagine that!  I was prescribed Voltaren over the counter topical rub, a brace, and a series of exercises to do.  My range of motion is good, so they think the exercises will help.  

I was really hungry, so I stopped at Pizza Hut - dang, it was $23 for a medium Supreme pizza that I will be eating for the next 4 days.  I guess I need to pay more attention to what I am ordering in the future. 


Tuesday, September 15, 2026

Tuesday, September 15, 2026

I don't think I have said how much I will NOT miss the heavy traffic sounds that I hear on Old Shakopee Road every day - the big heavy semi trucks and trailers and the multiple sirens every day. It is my only complaint of living in this place. Other than that I have loved looking out my windows at the nicely wooded yard, the fence with beautiful perennial gardens, walking through this neighborhood, and meeting up with the many friends I have made over the last six years.  

Today is the anniversary of my engagement to Mike - waaaaay back in 1967.  For years I have remembered it as the 23rd of September but reading my old diary the other day corrected that memory. He left for active duty in Long Beach the next week. 

My car is getting an oil change today whether it needs it or not (I couldn't find the little sticker from the auto shop).


Monday, September 14, 2026

Sunday, October 13, 2026

 Ben texted me this morning and wanted to get together, and since I had just gotten up (finally got a full night's sleep), I suggested that he come here and we would walk to Perk-Up Kitchen for a coffee and pastry. The bees were buzzing around our outside table so we asked for take-out boxes, finished our coffee and headed back to my place. Ben went through a box of stuff that belonged to Mike and some of Grandpa Bridge's toys from his childhood.  He ended up taking a box home, but I still have lots of stuff that my boys will have to go through at some point. I guess that's what happens when you were a collector of many things and also when you had a house that was big enough to store lots of stuff.

It sure was nice to hang out with Ben and we plan to get together the next couple of weekends too. 

I packed up the glass shelves for my TV stand, my plant pots and most of my fancy glassware. I'm making progress and feel comfortable that I will be ready for the big move on the 30th.  

Saturday, September 12, 2026

Saturday, September 12, 2026

 My days have been filled with walks, phone calls to change/cancel accounts, reading Doug's book, working on Charlotte's sweater, and packing and organizing.  

I have learned a lot from reading (and editing) Doug's book and was not aware of the role that his ship the USS Valley Forge played in Vietnam back in 1967.  Most of my comments have been regarding acronyms and terminology used that I don't understand, nor would other novice readers.  I also went on You Tube to watch a video and that gave me a better understanding of what was going on.  I feel bad for what those guys went through - no wonder many of them have and still are suffering.

I met Mavis for lunch at the Yankee Tavern on Wednesday and it was nice to see her again.  She wants to take a bus to Madison to come and visit some time in the future, once I get settled in.  We had a really nice visit and I learned that she will be having knee surgery in November and will turn  89 next week. I can only hope that I am as mentally sharp and active as she is if and when my time comes.

I sure haven't been sleeping well lately. My body is either restless or my mind is going with moving plans and coming up with things that I need to get done before I move.  Dawn sent me a walk thru video of my new apartment and I really feel like I am going to be comfortable there. I was asked if I was up to a 'farewell' gathering here at Penelope and that will be on the 23rd from 2-3:00 pm.

Tom and I had a nice phone conversation on Thursday and we reminisced about some of the travels we have had in the past. Looking back, we covered some ground together.

Yesterday was busy - I had to get Joey in to the vet for his annual checkup, so I dropped him off at 9:30. He has been licking his paws a lot the last few weeks and has refused to jump up on the bed lately, so I asked them to check that out, in addition to nail trims and anal gland expression.  He was prescribed some pills to help with the itching and also some prescription shampoo that I need to use on his feet at least once a week.  All of this to the tune of $175 that I wasn't counting on.  Oh well, anything for the little guy that keeps me company and keeps me moving every day. 

Monday, September 7, 2026

Monday. September 7, 2026

 The week has been busy with fitting in a bit of packing here and there and, of course, everything that comes off a top shelf or cabinet needs cleaning because it hasn't been done in a couple of years.

Deb came over got the things off the top of my cabinets and in the shelves that were hard for me to reach. What a great friend! I proceeded to wash and pack. I'm the 'handle it once' kind of gal, so things are getting done.

I received the book "Boredom to Bedlam" that my friend Doug just finished, about his experience in Vietnam.  I offered to edit it for him and so have started working on that.  I've also been working on getting Charlotte's birthday gift finished - have one sleeve almost done and the other to finish and that should be it.  It's going to be so cute! 

This morning, I met Ben at the Neill Lake Walking Trail in Eden Prairie, a 1.75 mile trail around a nice, clear lake.  One side of the lake was covered in native flowers and were full of butterflies - they must be getting ready for their big migration. We also saw two beautiful swans and a couple of Egret.  It's a very nice trail and it was great hanging out with Ben for a couple of hours.  We were looking for a place to have a coffee and pastry but most of the places were closed.



Wednesday, September 2, 2026

Wednesday, September 2, 2026

 Happy 15th Birthday to my sweet granddaughter Charlotte today.  I went to her first JV Swim Meet last night and I'm so glad that I went.  I got there early enough to see both teams doing their rev-up cheers and I get why she is hyped about it.  She swam in two events and placed 2nd in the 100 yard freestyle, only 4 seconds shy of 1st place.  Of course, it made me feel proud and wish her the best.

I spent three hours on the phone today with my health insurance benefit provider, to choose a new policy for Wisconsin.  I ended up with a United Healthcare policy that covers all of my current doctors and medications.  

I have also made arrangements for movers on both ends. Life is good.


Tuesday, September 1, 2026

Monday, August 31, 2026

This afternoon I got the news that I have been waiting for over two years to hear - an apartment at Greenspire in Stoughton is available for me and I did not hesitate to accept it.  The person I spoke with is with the management company so I will have to work with her on the lease, deposit, and rent but will chat with the manager at the apartment for a move-in date. Based on the new address that she gave me, my apartment is on the first floor, faces east, and I will have a small patio to enjoy.  Carol and Richard are still willing to move me with his snowmobile trailer and I have already touched base with Dustin to load it up with my stuff.  

I talked with both of my boys and Pat was happy to hear the news and Ben has mixed feelings, as do I.  I am confident that I am doing the right thing, as my long-term plan since way back when has been to get back to my roots.  I think Stoughton will be a good place to age gracefully and I will have many contacts to keep an active social life going.  

Charlotte's sweater is coming right along, I started on a sleeve today. I will be going to her first high school junior varsity swim meet tomorrow - dang - she is growing to be quite the young lady and is excited about high school. 

Sunday, August 30, 2026

Sunday, August 30, 2026

 Tom and I managed to fill up the days this week, mostly with walks around the neighborhood, daily naps, and dinners.  I had a haircut appointment with Shirley on Tuesday and he and I went to Costco and Cub to do some shopping on Wednesday.  

Thursday was laundry day, as Tom was getting ready for his trip back home to AZ on Friday. We had a nice steak dinner that night and watched a good movie with Liam Neeson called "The Land of Saints and Sinners".  

I got Tom to the airport around 11:30 on Friday for his 1:15 flight back to Phoenix.  I heard from him around 5:30 that afternoon that he had gotten back to his trailer, his truck was still there, and all was good.  The last three weeks have been nice having him around and we manage to find things to do, but we both kind of enjoy doing our own thing too - reading, napping, watching shows on TV.

I stopped at an estate sale and a couple of garage sales on my way back home and then it was time to get accustomed to living a solo life again.  I bought a couple of books but that was about it.

Yesterday, Jill called to see if I wanted to come by for pizza and birthday cake for Charlotte.  I took along the 'work in progress' gift that I am making for her (I need some measurements before I can continue) and she really liked it. She is really excited about high school, has made several new friends on the JV swim team.

Charlotte's Birthday Gift


Me and the Birthday girl, Charlotte


Camille and Norah

Sunday, August 23, 2026

Sunday, August 23, 2026

 Happy Heavenly 79th Birthday to my Mike today.  Dang - I sure do miss him at times, mostly on memorable dates, but there are reminders all over my home and just about anywhere I go can spark a memory. Thanks for those, Mike!

I went and picked up Norah on Thursday afternoon for a couple nights sleepovers. Charlotte is staying with Lois as she has two swim practices each day plus 2 hours of weight lifting and various events with her friends. Ben, Jill, and Camille are in San Diego to celebrate her upcoming 13th birthday. They will be taking Norah to New York City later on in October. 

Norah and I did some shopping so I would have plenty of gluten free options for her to eat - and she mostly wanted junk and snack foods. Imagine that for a 12-year old.  She wasn't interested in doing a whole lot other than being on her iPad but we did walk to the nearby school grounds and she got into some of the playground equipment and we watched a couple of movies. I taught her how to play 21 poker and that was kind of hit, especially when there was money involved.

Lois had to go out of town on Saturday for a funeral and needed some backup help.  She dropped Charlotte at swim practice before heading out and Norah and I picked her up, went to their house and out until it was time to take her and her friend Holly to a pool party later that afternoon and then Holly's parents brought her back home. Norah was hoping to stay at her own house and sleep in her own bed that night and Lois was ok with it, so I came back home without her.  Of course, she forgot a few things at my house, and I returned them today after Tom and I went for breakfast at Ruby's Family Restaurant. Breakfast was good and I would definitely go back there.


Friday, August 21, 2026

Thursday, August 20, 2026

 We haven't done a whole lot this week, although it has been busy. I had Stampin Up on Monday and it was nice to see the gals again. We assembled 120 autumn themed cards to donate to hospice for patients and their families.  Ronnie provided a yummy dessert of a pie with vanilla cookie base, topped with melted caramel, then melted chocolate and a dab of whipped cream - it was yummy and something to keep in mind for the future.

Tom and I went to dinner at Shantytown on Tuesday and we're both happy with our meals - Reuben's - but our server was kind of a serious, gruff person, although she was speedy.

I helped out with food shelf on Wednesday and we got loads of good veggies and other goodies.  It was a busy morning.  

Monday, August 17, 2026

Sunday, August 17, 2026

 Saturday was a relaxing day and we mostly hung around the apartment other than going for walks.  Funny how a 3-day road trip kind of drags you down these days.

Yesterday was a little better and we took care of some chores including watering the plants around the building and going to the grocery store. I made quesadillas for dinner and we watched the movie "Arthur the King" with Mark Wahlburg - a good movie that had us on the edge of the couch a few times.  

Friday, August 14, 2026

Friday, August 14, 2026

 Again, after a nice continental breakfast at the motel, we headed out for a walk.  This time, we went to the Wisconsin Canoe Association Museum and learned about various canoe builders and their differences.  Since Tom MacKenzie built traditional style canoes, several of his were on display, as was a model that showed the various layers of how they were built and assembled.  I'm glad to have known him and glad that I got to revisit this place.

When we got back to the hotel, we packed up and headed to Rice Lake where we had a reservation at the AmericInn for the night. We were way too early and they weren't checking folks in yet, so we headed downtown to check things out. There isn't much in this town but we did stumble on the Agonic Brewery and Tom had a beer and I had a Bloody Beer that was quite tasty.  

Back at the motel, we checked in, got settled and by then it was naptime.

We had a reservation at Lehman's Supper Club for dinner and it was a great place that has been in business since the 1930s. We were seated in the Lounge and each ordered an Old Fashioned and the lighter Walleye dinner that came with salad, fries and white bread toast.  The walleye was excellent and then we ordered a crème brûlée for dessert to share - yummy!  Again, we were both full and felt like a walk when we got back to the hotel. This room is frigid and no matter what setting we put on, it is cold.




Thursday, August 13, 2026

 After a nice breakfast at the hotel, we headed to downtown Spooner to do some window shopping and check out the two blocks of shops. As we drove, we passed the Wisconsin Canoe Heritage Museum and I immediately had a feeling of Déjà vu.  No wonder - as our dear friend Tom MacKenzie was a founding member and after he passed away, his entire shop and several of his canoes were donated to the museum by his wife, Karen.  Tom built two of the canoes that Mike had - the first was a birchbark and then he traded that one for a wood and canvas model, the first that was built in 1988. We attended the dedication of the museum and then I stopped again on my travels back in 2017.

We walked the streets of downtown Spooner, then headed out of town to the Spooner Outlet - a huge store that recently moved from downtown to a new location - they sell lots of outdoor clothing a sporting equipment.  

We had reservations for the dinner train ride on the Great Northern train. We had a reserved table in the dining car, an original that was built in the 1950s.  Our table was made up with white linen tablecloth and the works.  We ordered cocktails from the cash bar and our server, Freedom, gave us some information about how the meal would be served and a little bit about the route we would be taking.  





Each course was served on some of the original dishes and fancy glasses and the dishes were cleared off before the next course came out.  We started with cheesy biscuits, chicken wild rice soup, beef tender chateau with mushrooms, garlic mashed red potatoes, roasted carrots and then a dessert of blueberry cheesecake.  Everything was delicious.  

Once the meal was finished, Freedom told us about the various train cars, the history behind each car (dating back to the 20's and 30's, and then we were free to roam around as we wanted.  There were two additional dining cars and one was a western themed one with cowhide upholstered booths and stools (apparently Teddy Roosevelt rode on that one during one of his whistle stop campaigns). There also were three sleeper cars and we were able to see one of the sleepers - a queen sized bed and full bath, but not much else.  At the rear of the train, a staff member monitored the tracks (we were now headed forward) for animals and obstructions, ready to radio the engineer or to stop the train if necessary. All in all, it was a lovely night, we were stuffed and ready for a walk when we got back to the hotel. 

Thursday, August 13, 2026

Wednesday, August 12, 2026

 Tom left Arizona without bringing any shorts, so we took a drive to Target on Monday so he could get a pair. He wore them around the apartment with the tags on to make sure they fit ok and I couldn't resist calling him Minnie Pearl.  

Yesterday, we loaded up Joey's stuff and our stuff, took Joey to Ben's house and Tom and I headed out on a road trip to Spooner, WI. We drove in a northeast direction through many small towns, stopping for a quick potty break and then to gas up in Shell Lake, the last town before getting to Spooner. We had talked with someone at the Best Western earlier in the week and had trouble communicating so we decided to just check it out when we got there.  A conversation with a gal at the Visitor's Center led us drive about 15 miles north to check out another lodging option. Neither of us were impressed as there were no cars around and the place looked really beat up.  The good thing about going out of our way is that the route took us past the Great Northern Railway where we will go on a dinner cruise tonight.

Before heading back to Spooner, I called the Best Western to check on availability and a guy named Blake gave us a really good deal on a room for the next two nights - the place is clean and well cared for and our room is spotless.  He told us about a couple of places within walking distance to get a burger and a beer.  Yea, right.  After unloading the car, we headed down the Wild River Trail that is adjacent to the motel and supposed to get us to Tony's Riverplace Bar, but after at least a mile and not seeing it, we walked back to the motel and got the car and drove there.  The service was great and our burgers were tasty. Tom had a couple of beers and I had an Old Fashioned.  We were stuffed and ready to settle in for the night.  

Sunday, August 9, 2026

Sunday, August 9, 2026

 Not knowing the seating situation at  the Turf Club, we wanted to get there by the time the doors opened at 7pm last night, so we could get some decent seats. After attempting to squeeze into a parallel parking spot and not fitting, we ended up with the very last spot in the parking in the lot adjacent to the venue.  Emmy Wood, a local singer/songwriter started the show and neither of us were impressed.  When Ben arrived just before 8pm, he wasn't too impressed either. Dale Watson and The Lone Stars started right on time at 9pm and they put on a really great show, featuring all of the members of the band and Dale's singing and amazing guitar licks.  It was definitely a thumbs up performance.  

I'm certainly not used to being awake at midnight, but I made it and am thankful that I did.  I sure did feel sore and stiff from sitting on a stool for 3 hours but after stretches, a great shoulder massage from Tom and some coffee this morning, I'm not feeling too bad.  Is there really such a thing as aging gracefully?

Saturday, August 8, 2026

Saturday, August 8, 2026

 I spent Thursday and Friday last week recovering from six days away from home - restocking a few groceries but other than that, resting. 

We had an all-day soaking rain last Sunday and Joey and I even had to do two of our walks in the rain.  We really needed it and it has made the grass turn green and grow taller again. Everything is looking lush again and I haven't had to water flowers for several days.

Monday this week was spent getting the house cleaned - getting ready for Tom's arrival on Wednesday.   My stomach was not feeling real great so I stuck pretty close to home. I did my laundry and stocked up on groceries, dog food, and beer and wine on Tuesday.

I hadn't seen Sue or Tom for a couple of weeks, so went over and hung out on their deck and talked with Sue for a couple of hours while Joey hung out indoors with Tom.  They invited Tom and I to come and join in on a family gathering they were having on Wednesday evening but I said we probably wouldn't be doing that, as Tom's flight was getting in around 5:00 pm.

I wanted to have some good food to serve Tom, after his day of travel, so I made a batch of Mrs. Gumtow's casserole and chopped up lots of veggies for a salad.  His flight was right on time and I waited in the cell phone lot until he was at the door.  It sure is good to see him again - not sure how long he is staying this time.  My lease has a clause that says guests are only allowed for two weeks each year, but since we don't have a manager right now, we are going to see what happens.  

Happy Birthday to my good friend, Patty!

We haven't done a lot other than taking good walks, listening to music and enjoying each other's company again. Tonight, we will be off to see Dale Watson at the Turf Club in St. Paul. Ben will meet us there, as he has a day of boating with friends scheduled.  

Wednesday, July 29, 2026

Wednesday, July 29, 2026

 The week of  July 13 was full of activities and appointments.  I helped with Food Shelf, had a haircut, did some shopping, and got my new crown. I am amazed at the technology today - they no longer take impressions with that funky, pasty, pink stuff that always set off my gag reflex.  Instead they use a camera that takes digital images and measurements of the tooth and then the new crown is made right in-house. No more temporary crown. I was out of there in 1.5 hours with a new crown and I don't have to go back until my next hygiene appointment.


My brother-in-law Denny ended up in the hospital with a bladder/UTI infection that led to him having Sepsis. He was there for 4 days and then sent home to recover.  I talked with him last Sunday and he said he was feeling better little by little and looking forward to seeing the Doctor next week for some answers regarding his current condition and recovery prognosis.


I took Joey to Ben's on Wednesday night, the 22nd, as he will be staying with them while I go to Stoughton for my class reunion and to connect with family and friends that I haven't seen since last September.  I drove to Stoughton on Thursday, landed at Dawn's, chatted for a few hours then went and had dinner with Pat and Tracey. I had really been missing them and it felt so good to see them again. Both are doing well.


On Friday morning, Pat took me to my appointment at UW Hospital for a consultation with a Neurologist. We were both very impressed with how informed they were about my experience (the technician had it all memorized and went through the series of events verbatim as if it had just taken place. She went and reviewed our discussion with the Neurologist and then they both came back in the room to talk with us. My brain has healed a lot since the initial seizures but there is still a small vulnerable area.  Because of the LGI-1 auto immune issue, I will need to continue having the Rituxan infusions for now and take the Keppra seizure medication.  She also set me up for future appointments with her and an epileptologist and a referral to a general practitioner in Stoughton when I eventually move here.


Pat and I stopped and shopped at Costco, took a tour of the west side of Madison where he had worked on several historic homes, and then we hung out until 3:00 when I left to meet Patty at the hotel for the next 2 nights of reunion activities (our annual girl's weekend).


The Friday night meetup at Deak's Tavern was lots of fun with about 22 classmates showing up.  There were lots of hugs, stories, memories, and laughter.  The place was pretty much cleared out by 9pm. 



On Saturday, after a morning walk and breakfast, we went to Patty's sister Sandy's 80th and her brother-in-law Denny's 85th birthday party in Wyocena. It was a great opportunity to see her extended family again, including her son AJ.  We couldn't stay too long as we had to get back and fit in a short nap before going to the reunion.


Me & AJ

The reunion was such a fun time and the organizers did a great job. We got there early, so we helped with putting up a banner and decorating the tables.  The turnout was about 35 classmates and some spouses and I talked to all but one or two.  Again - we were all ready to head out before 9pm, except for a few stragglers.


Front row left to right: Doug Olson, Jon Dahle, Richard Benson, Milt Sperle, Harvey Skaar, and ?
Back row: Art Mertz, Dennis Malinowski, ?, Monte Ortman, Jody Norem, Jim Cowee, Greg Jensen, Dennis Olbrecht, George Jorgensen, and Vern Bronson

Front: Alice Winters,, Mary Jo Jerdee, Pam Lynch, Anita Ellis, Pat Quale, Mary Monson
Middle:  Me, Donna Hawkinson, Nancy Gloyd
Back row: Margie Lund, Susan Brown, Nancy Stiklested, Mary Jo Norgaren, Linda Aslakson, 
Brenda Lunde, Mary Williams

Sunday was pretty low key - hanging out with Dawn, taking a nap, and having dinner with Pat and Tracey.


Dawn and I met up with cousins Jonnie, Mary, and Erin for breakfast at Sonny's in Oregon.  It was sad to see that Jonnie is not doing well - she has osteoporosis with tiny fissures in her spine - said to be caused by a lifetime of smoking cigarettes - paybacks are hell, right. She is on lots of meds and either sleeps or hurts most of the time.  Dang - I did not get a picture.  Dinner with Pat & Tracey.


We took a nice walk on Sunday morning, up to the grounds of Greenspire - the apartment complex that I will move to eventually. I was unable to get a tour, as they didn't have any vacant apartments to show. I then went to meet up with Mike's family - brother Tom & his wife Karen, sister-in-law Sharon, and cousin Louie at Off Broadway in Monona. Again, it was great to see them and catch up on the latest news.


I hung out with Pat and Tracey for a couple of hours Tuesday night, said my goodbyes, and then went and had Mexican dinner at Dawn's house with her friends Scott and Kim.  I settled in early as the next day was to be the drive back home.  


I was on the road by 8:40 and made it to Ben's house by 2:00 - only two backups due to construction and they weren't long. My car did great, as did I. Joey was happy to see me and also happy to get back home

Sunday, July 12, 2026

July 12, 2026

 Most of my days have been hunkered down and getting walks in the neighborhood. I am now on day 11 of my 250 mg dose of Depakote and will drop to 0 mg on Wednesday. Yea!

This week I did do a small bit of driving. Deb and I went to visit a neighbor who fell and broke her pelvis and is in rehab at the Masonic Home nearby.  The buildings are gorgeous, as are the grounds and she lit up when we walked into her room.  Her family and the social services have determined that she is not able to live independently any more, as she is also having signs of dementia.  She did get pretty emotional when telling us about this decision - her son will be moving her to be near him in Arkansas this week.  This is one of the drawbacks to living in senior housing - you see this quite often.

My cupboards were bare, so we stopped and did some grocery shopping and made a stop at the local thrift store. It felt good to get out for a few hours.

My friend Elaine has also moved in with her daughter, as she had become very weak and I don't think she was eating right.  I talked with her briefly as she was leaving the building and she told me "I will be back".  We shall see.

Tom and Sue invited me and Judy to join them for burgers on the grill last Sunday, as Tom was trying out his new grill. They are such good neighbors! We enjoyed sitting on the deck and watching all of the birds that come to her feeders and birdbaths and also enjoying all of her beautiful gardens.  She is a plant lover like me and we can always talk about that subject. 

Last night, Ben and Jill took Lois and I out for belated birthday celebrations and we went to downtown Minneapolis to a very nice high end restaurant called Spoon and Stable.  I had my first Old Fashioned in a long time and chose Alaskan Halibut for my entree - it was deliciously seasoned and served on sticky rice and a piece of Bok Choy.  We shared some scallops and a beet salad. Everything was so delicious and seasoned very tastefully. They also brought the birthday girls a scoop of ice cream topped with cotton candy for dessert.

From there, we headed to the Guthrie Theater to see the play, "Come From Away", a story about September 11, 2001, 38 planes are diverted to the small town of Gander in Newfoundland that has a huge airport that had served as a staging area for allied troops heading to Europe during WWII. 7,000 people from all over the world ended up in this small town of about 6,000 and the townspeople came up with ways to feed, house, and care for them. It celebrated kindness, generosity, and diversity and was based on true events.  It was sad, but also lively and humorous.  After six days, the planes are finally cleared to take off and head for their original destinations - some back to New York where they saw the destruction for the first time.  What a lovely night out on the town!

Of course, this reminded me and Ben of that day, as he was traveling home from Japan and his flight was diverted from Los Angeles to San Francisco (his home).  Mike spent hours calling on the phone trying to get information about his flight and all that we learned was that he was on the plane when it took off from Tokyo.  He said they got off the plane and the airport was completely empty of people other than FBI and police. Jill was unable to even pick him up at the airport - the passengers had to be taken outside the airport by bus and they met up there.  I still have the article from the San Francisco Chronicle.



Friday, July 3, 2026

Saturday, July 3, 2026

 Ben and his family headed to Wisconsin for their annual 4th of July camping trip last Saturday, so I haven't had a chance to see him this last week.  

My neighbor Leslie invited me to go with her to the farmer's market that day and that was a nice getaway. I splurged and treated myself to some wild Alaskan salmon for dinner that night and bought a ham slice from my favorite pork vendor for later.

Some days when I walk Joey and the neighbors, Tom and Sue are out in their yard, we stand and chat for a while.  On Tuesday, they invited me and another neighbor, Judy, to go with them to the 9-Mile Creek Brewery for pizza and a beer that night.  The place is huge, with a nice area that has a huge selection of games too play, lots of tables and booths, an outdoor patio and delicious pizza. I did have a local NA beer but not the IPA that they make. We sat and talked for three hours - what a nice time! They are such nice people and we have become good friends.

I had a nice, long phone conversation with Tom on Wednesday and we talked about how we have been together now, off and on and from a distance for almost nine years.  I think we have a good thing going on but it would be nice to see him more often.

I also had a nice, long phone conversation with my friend Sue and we caught up on the latest news with our families and reminisced about some of the good times we had in the past.  

Lois came by yesterday morning and we walked to the Perk Up Cafe that is just down the street from me and had a very nice breakfast. She has Charlotte this week because she was supposed to work (teaching swimming to young children) and then her work was canceled, so she missed out on being with her family on vacation.  Lois had just dropped her off for swim practice and then headed my way.  I would have liked to help out but because of possible withdrawal effects from the reduction of my medication, I am not supposed to drive.

I did risk driving to my dentist appointment and to run a few errands all right close to home on Tuesday. That was Day 14 in that reduction cycle and I am now down to just 250 mg/day for the next 2 weeks and then will be completely off that drug.  I will continue taking Keppra, probably forever because it appears that is keeping me from having any seizures - maybe the dose will be reduced. Speaking of withdrawal - could that be why I was able to sleep from 9pm last night until 8am this morning? That is crazy!

Rene sent me a video of a big picnic we had at our house in Stoughton, back in around 2000.  It showed Mike, my brother Rocco, and Rene's Mike, Mike's parents, our old schoolhouse and the beautiful yard with many of my gardens and the playground equipment.  It made me feel happy to see Mike talking and laughing and playing Frisbee with a dog. We sure did have a lot of good times there and lots of good parties too.  

Thursday, June 25, 2026

June 25, 2026

  Since I started the reduction of Depakote (seizure medication) by 250 mg/day for the next two weeks, I have been laying low and staying close to my apartment.  I haven't felt very good and all of my symptoms are on the list of possible withdrawal side effects like fatigue, headache, unsteady on my feel, and tremors.  I have slept quite a bit, but now at day eight I am feeling much better.

The exception to staying at home was when Ben came to pick me up and we went to the Lobby Cafe for a coffee and pastry on Father's Day.  I also had a nice conversation with Pat that day.

I walked to the dentist for a cleaning on Monday and ended up with an exam first and not enough time for the cleaning.  The exam found that I need a new crown on the upper right next to the last molar.  I cringed when I saw the cost, but after giving it some thought and looking at my savings, I decided that I will go ahead and do it - just haven't scheduled it yet.  The next morning, I got a notice on my door that told me an audit had been done and I had overpaid my rent and was due a credit of $844.  This will come pretty close to covering the cost of my crown.  I think the stars were aligned for me.

Joey and I have gotten some nice walks in the last few days, the temps have been in the 70s with low humidities and very nice blue skies with the exception of a much needed rainy day on Tuesday. 

Friday, June 19, 2026

Friday, June 19, 2026

 I spent Saturday and Sunday at Ben and Jill's house with Yoshi while they went to Iowa for a family reunion on Jill's side of the family.  I got packed up and ready for my road trip to Des Moines on Monday, June 15.  On my way out of town, I stopped by Eric's garage to have the oil checked in my car (I forgot to have Ben do it before I left his house) and then I headed south on I-35 for about 220 miles.  After four stops along the way, three at rest areas and one at a gas station, I arrived at our destination of the Stoney Creek Resort in Johnston.

Bob, Penny, and Randy (I shared a room with him) were all checked in and Rita and Denny followed shortly after.  We mostly hung out in a nice patio area, catching up on the last two years before heading out to dinner.  We all packed into Bob's car so we didn't have to take 2 cars and went to Zeke's Rooftop Grill for some casual American food.  It was a bit breezy but nice to sit on the outdoor deck.  Back at the resort, we hung out in the bar for a while before retiring for the night.  I was all settled in for the night when Rita came knocking on our door and just wanted to hug me, snuggle and tell me how much she missed and loved me.  We reminisced about having to share a bed the whole time we were growing up at the house on Hamilton St in Stoughton and then Randy escorted her back to her room.


On Tuesday morning, Randy and I had breakfast at the hotel, Bob & Penny went to a park to walk, and Rita and Denny took their time getting ready for the day.  We met up at the same gazebo/lounge area as the previous day and visited for a while.


We had a late lunch/early dinner at the Soggy Frog Marina on Saylorville Lake and enjoyed some great conversation next to the water. It was a beautiful day! When we got back to the resort,  we gathered in the lounge and watched some videos that Rene shared of past family reunions that were held at Rita and Denny's lake house in 1992 and 1996.  We then looked at photos (I have kept an album of pics of all of my siblings, going back to school days, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. through the years. We also told lots of stories, shared memories, and had lots of laughs.  Bob and Randy cracked me up with their boyish antics - stick teasing each other and giving noogies and Dutch rubs. The guys all did some card tricks.  A gal from Pisces Beach, CA who was at the table next to us joined us at our table and we all had a nice time. Unlike our gatherings in years past, we were all ready to retire for the night by 9pm.  That might be age related - ya think?


After breakfast on Tuesday morning, we all loaded up and headed back to our respective homes.  I am so glad that we had this gathering and that we planned to keep it going every year on the 2nd week of June - next year the week of June 24, 2027 .  We aren't getting any younger and have all had health issues over the last two years. 

Tuesday, June 9, 2026

Tuesday, June 9, 2026

 I finally got the results from my most recent EEG and learned that things are stable, although there are some underlying seizure activity that is mild enough that it isn't a concern.  I am able to gradually decrease the anti-seizure medication, Depakote by 250 mg a day for 2 weeks, then drop another 250 mg/day for the next 2 weeks.  He did advise that the reduction in the medication could cause seizures, so not to drive while going through the reduction.  That will be a pain. 


Monday, June 8, 2026

Monday, June 8, 2026

 Today was a full day, starting with a good walk and a phone conversation with Pat while I was walking and I had also put a load of laundry in the washer before I left.  Just as the laundry finished, I had a conversation with Tom that we had arranged (the 2-hour time difference is crazy to work around).  As usual, we spent an hour or so chatting - mostly about upcoming trips - him coming back here for a visit in August and then a possible California cruise later in October.  Time to do some research.


Deb's friend Mike, a drummer with several local bands, was playing at the VFW with the Jim Strait Blues Jam and we met her friends Joanie and her husband Phil there.  Deb's daughter Chelsea also joined us for a beer too.  Phil has Alzheimer's so I was warned that he may repeat the same question over and over and that did happen but since he is a former drummer, he was just so happy to hear the music.  He did keep asking the name of the band and saying they were really good.  He got in a conversation with a guy at the table next to us ( also a drummer) and since it was a jam session, they got his name on the board and he was able to get up there and play a 3-song session.  He was in his element! Us girls all got up to dance when he played and I looked over and saw Joanie crying because she could just see how happy he was - and boy, did he do great.  Just before we left, the head of the band came over and invited him to sit in again. It was fun and I learned I can still dance - got a little winded though.  


We had art class on Wednesday and made clay pieces for another garden totem.  Genevieve had made the pieces ahead of time and each of us just chose the shape we wanted and decorated and painted it. She will take them home to fire in her kiln and then return so we can add them to the garden.



I met up with Ben at Girard Park yesterday and we did the walk around the lake and then went to Rustica for a pastry and coffee before he had to get to the swim meet that Charlotte and Camille were swimming in.  I was hoping to see the livestream but they weren't doing that this time.



My cousin Judy passed away on Monday, June 1. She was the oldest of my Aunt Virginia's three children. I don't remember when I last saw her as she lived in Missouri and our paths never crossed.  I did hear from her now and then when I would see her brother Ken occasionally and his family still comes to the reunions and I keep in touch on Facebook

Tuesday, May 26, 2026

Tuesday, May 26, 2026

 I did some grocery shopping on Monday to prepare for being cooped up in my apartment for 3 days.


The EEG technician, Jose, from Stratus showed up on Tuesday afternoon within the window of time that I was told.  He got right to work setting up a camera in my sleeping area and in my living area.  The reason for this is to look for unusual movements, staggering, stumbling, and issues with sleep.  The next step was to place the electrodes on my head, using a water soluble glue and sometimes tape, following a pattern and checking his computer that each electrode was reading. The final step was to wrap my head in gauze to help keep the electrodes in place.  





Needless to say, it was strange to have cameras watching me but I tried to ignore them and made sure that I dressed in the bathroom instead of the bedroom where I usually do. During the night, the gauze wrap came off and I had to call for advise the next morning.  Over the next day and a half, it came off each time I slept and had to be rewrapped.


Jose showed up on Thursday afternoon to take off the electrodes and to take down the cameras.  He told me that all went well with the recording and that I should get results from my doctor in 5-7 days. Fingers crossed that all is well.


Lois texted me Saturday morning to see if I was interested in going to the Landscape Arboretum and I took her up on her invite. It turned out to be a chilly morning but we still enjoyed the walk and seeing all of the spring flowering plants, especially the Azaleas that were so colorful and many of the tulips were still blooming.  We went to Moe's Char House for a burger after our stroll through the gardens.


Norah's 6th grade band marched in the Memorial Day parade in Excelsior and I went with Ben and family. I couldn't help but remember the classmates that I lost during the Vietnam war.  The little town had a small parade with a few military vehicles, the band, Eagle Scouts, and some classic cars. We went over to Lois' for a weenie roast afterward.  Her yard is so pretty and relaxing. 


My friend, Doug, wrote the following article for the Courier Hub:


For the past seven years The Courrier Hub has been gracious enough to publish my Memorial Day article and for the past seven years I have put it on my FB page to share with family and friends. This year's article resonates in particular with me, not that I was anyone important in the Vietnam War, but in what he said to his son. It takes me back 58 years.


In honor of General Lucian K. Truscott Jr. (1895–1965).


General Lucian King Truscott Jr. Born in 1895 in Chatfield, Texas. His family had very little. He never formally finished high school. At sixteen, he told a state school he was eighteen, already had his diploma and walked away with a teaching certificate. He was already building himself from nothing.

In 1917, he joined the cavalry. He learned everything he could from every exercise, and every man both above and below him in rank. He didn’t rise through politics or connections. He rose by being more prepared than everyone around him.


He commanded assorted units on his way up the ladder, including a full field army. He founded the Army Rangers. He won battles that changed the direction of the war in Europe, but the moment most worth remembering about him didn’t happen on any battlefield. It happened in a cemetery in Italy, on a warm May morning, when the general turned his back on the powerful and chose to speak only to the dead. He called them his responsibility.


It was May 30, 1945. Memorial Day. The Sicily-Rome American Cemetery at Nettuno, Italy. Rows of white temporary grave markers stretched across the sandy ground in every direction as far as the eye could see. Nearly 20,000 of them. Senators and dignitaries sat in folding chairs near the podium. A 23-year-old cartoonist named Bill Mauldin who had spent years drawing the honest and unglamorous truth of the ordinary American soldier sat quietly in the back row.

Truscott stepped up to the microphone. He acknowledged the crowd. Then he turned around. He faced the graves. His back completely to the dignitaries. In his distinctive rough and gravelly voice, a voice that, as Mauldin once wrote, made other strong men go quiet, he apologized to the dead.

He said that leaders are always reassured that the deaths in war are never their fault. That such losses are simply inevitable. He said every honest leader knows deep in their heart that is not entirely true. He said he had made mistakes. Perhaps many of them. He asked the dead to forgive him. He knew it was asking for something impossible. He asked anyway.


He said he would not stand there and speak about the glorious dead — because he saw absolutely nothing glorious about young men in their teens and twenties lying in the ground. He made a promise that if he ever heard anyone use that phrase, he would personally set them straight. "It is the least I can do," he said.

No written transcript exists of that speech. No recording was ever made. We know what took place only because of Bill Mauldin — and never forgot what he witnessed. He called it the most moving gesture he had ever seen in his life. "It came from a hard-boiled old man who was incapable of planned dramatics."

Lucian Truscott died in 1965. Eisenhower ranked him among the six most valuable American officers in the entire European theater of the war. Biographers largely passed over him for decades anyway.


Every Memorial Day, remember the ones who carried the weight quietly and completely without fanfare. The ones who never needed a spotlight to know who they were. The ones who turned toward the graves instead of the cameras. Lucian Truscott was one of those men. "The bodies, the bodies, all those dead boys, the bodies…" His only words about the war, spoken through tears to his son, the night before his son left for Korea.

“We who have seen war, will never stop seeing it. In the silence of the night, we will always hear the screams.”- Joseph L. Galloway 

Thank you to Lucian K. Truscott IV and Bill Mauldin for your story and the inspiration.

Doug Olson – USN

Vietnam, Tet Offensive 1967-68